I hopped on a few dating sites today after taking a break from them for over a year. I was immediately reminded of all the reasons I haven’t been online seeking love. I had so many messages to weed through that it was a bit overwhelming at first. I soon came to realize that about a third of them were from those guys that hit on everyone and are immediately kicked off the site due to their content or sending personal contact info through the site (one would think they would have learned this by now).
Many of the rest were one-line wonders, which always perplexed me. Do men really think a “hi” will get them in good graces with anyone of substance? And then there was the abundance of emails that simply stated something about my looks. These always make me cringe. Did they even read my profile? If they had, they would know better than to send something like this since I warn them I will immediately delete those emails. My feeling is that if they cannot take the time to see who I am as a human being, and not just what I look like, then I don’t have time to talk to them, either.
So now I was down to the last third or so. In reading the emails and looking at the profiles, I had mixed feelings. There are many reasons I have not been checking my dating sites for over a year, and this was a big reminder of why. Out of all the emails I received, I only replied to less than a handful – actually, only 3 to be exact. These men I would definitely like to meet. However, since I have not been online in over a year, some of the emails were from almost a year ago. Okay, my bad. In my defense, I was extremely frustrated with the men I was meeting from these sites and needed a break.
It left me wondering if love can actually be found online. I believe it can. The reason I believe this is because I have met some fabulous men online and have had some wonderful relationships with men I met online. I am keeping the faith that the right one for me is out there. I will be keeping my options open, but will not compromise who I am in finding love online. What this means is that there will be many, many emails sent to me wasting my time that I will never respond to. As in everything in life, I will focus on the goal, which is getting to the right man out of the many who write saying they are interested. For those I pass over – trust me guys, after reading some of your profiles, I know for a fact you would never be interested in me (the actual person). While we all have our “lists” of what we are looking for, my negotiable items are many with the right person; but some things would never work. As warmer weather is here, I am once again giving this another chance. After all, I do believe the right one is out there somewhere!
Dating After 40 