You are enough! God says that you are beautifully and wonderfully made. He made you to be who you are and no one else. He created you with YOU in mind.
While these are the facts, sometimes it is hard to see this. Dating is rough. People don’t take the time to really get to know you and therefore, they cannot begin to appreciate the amazing human you are.
I know it’s hard, but you have to believe God, who always tells the truth, and not the lies of the enemy, which is the message you sometimes get from others.
For example, I know that I am one of the most high-quality women a man can meet. But few appreciate that about me. They say they are looking for love. They say they are looking for someone to spend their lives with. They say they want a Christian. And when I am all of the things they say they want, they run.
So, what do men want? I wish I knew. What I do know is that I have met some men who want Barbie hanging on their arms, and the rest does not matter. I have met men who say they want a Christian, but when it comes down to actually applying Christian values to the relationship, it all falls apart, because that is really not who they are. I have met men who say they want someone who holds their shared values, but then they make excuses because what they are really after are worldly possessions and assets. It’s insane, really.
Sometimes it feels that being YOU just is not enough. Being you can never measure up to the impossible expectations of the dating game. You are told over and over again that you are NOT enough. But the humans telling you that cannot see the amazing human you are. They are flawed. They are not looking for the right things in a relationship, but are blinded by cultural and worldly things.
Remember it is they who are flawed. For you ARE enough. God says you are beautifully and wonderfully made. He said you are beautiful. You are a beautiful soul and when men cannot see your beauty, they lose out on an amazing woman. They miss out on someone God created and it takes a God-centered man to appreciate that. If a man who claims to be God-centered cannot see your beauty, he is flawed.
A God-centered man will be able to recognize your beauty. He will be in awe of how strong you are through all the things you have been through. He will be amazed you are still standing to tell your story. And he will feel lucky you chose him to share it all with. He will recognize that God gave you the strength you have and your strength is an asset to any relationship. He will see you have leaned on God more than he probably has and the only reason he is lucky enough to even talk to you is because you have.
Yes, You are beautifully and wonderfully made, my dear. You are an amazing creature of God. You are beauty, strength, power, love, compassion, giving, patience, and so much more all wrapped up in that beautiful package God made you in. You are enough. More than enough. And if someone wants to hold life’s hardships against you, then shame on them. For they cannot begin to appreciate the beauty that you are.
People in the Bible had hardships. We have read of many of them, but yet in the times we live in people expect to find the right person with the right package of material assets. That is NOT Biblical. Instead of looking at character, too many times today people focus on all the wrong things, and then they miss out on someone amazing who comes along. Unfortunately, many people today are shallow. They do not hold fast to the important things like character.
As I have said before in the blog, you cannot order up a person like you order a pizza. You cannot expect to get a pretty package with everything you like on top. Life happens and people come with all sorts of baggage, especially in middle age and beyond. They have lived full lives. Life happens. Things happen. All you can do is look at their heart and who they are today. That will tell you what you really need to know because THAT is what is important!
So, chin up, my friend. You are MORE than enough!