A few months ago, I met a man at a business meeting. He seemed really nice and we hit it off right away. He left early and I thought I would never hear from him again. However, that was not the case. He found me on Facebook and we started talking. A little while later, we went on a date.
He was such a gentleman on our date and we had loads to talk about. The conversation was easy and there seemed to be a mutual interest. At the end of the date, he was a perfect gentleman and walked me to my car. We talked for a few more minutes and parted ways, agreeing we both wanted to see each other again.
Before we went out, he let me know that he had a trip planned to the Bahamas for a few weeks. So, after our date, he went on vacation. Lucky him!! While in the Bahamas, he sent me a beautiful picture of a beach! Oh, how nice that would be!! I was surprised to actually hear from him while he was on vacation, and took this as a positive sign. After all, most men would not take time out of a vacation to think of someone they had one date with!
However, we had not planned a second date, and he still needed to call me when he returned. When things like this happen and a second date is not or cannot be planned, for whatever reason, beware! Boy, did I learn that one!
When he returned, he did call me! I was elated since I am used to online dating and the land of the one-date wonders. We had a very nice conversation and we planned on a date for the upcoming Sunday. We did not set an exact time, since I attend church in the morning, but we did discuss what we would do. He said that he likes to go to movies on Sundays, and would I mind doing that. Well, no. I love movies and don’t attend many these days! I was really looking forward to seeing a movie and getting to know this man better and hearing all about his trip.
So Sunday arrived, and when I got home from church I started working while waiting to hear from him. Well, that never happened. He never called.
I had so many things to do that day. I was invited to three different events, and my grass needed to be mowed. However, since I had not committed to any of those things yet, I committed myself to another date with him.
I was furious! How dare he tell me we will be doing something and then not show up or call! It would not have been a big deal, except that I had other things I wanted to do, but did not do them due to our plans to see a movie. How rude and inconsiderate of him to leave me sitting and waiting to go on a date that never happened. Unless he or an immediate family member died, there is just no excuse good enough to make up for leaving someone sitting there waiting to go on a date.
Now, you are probably wondering why I did not call him at this point. Well, I don’t call men, unless I am in a relationship with a man. I will not run after a man – ever. From my observations, if a man is not interested in a woman, he will stray. So there is no point in chasing after them. Now there does need to be mutual interest, but it really makes no difference how interested the woman is if the man is not interested. She may get some dates, and he may sleep with her, but she will surely get her heart broken when he moves on to someone he is truly interested in. I am too old for all this drama and, quite frankly, just don’t have the time for it. This is why I will never chase after a man.
We are still “friends” on Facebook. However, there is little this man can do to make this up to me. There are just very few excuses that would be acceptable at this point. He has not contacted me since then, which leads me to believe he is either not interested or found someone new. Either way, it is okay. But it should have been communicated. I am a big girl, I can handle this! Not showing up is unacceptable. I am a person with feelings and things to do. Be considerate and call (or even text if you aren’t man enough). Do something! Don’t just let someone sit there waiting to go on a date. That is wrong on so many levels. In dating, you need to show up!
Dating After 40 