Most, but not all of us, want someone to share our lives with. In this quest, we sometimes lose sight of some of the gifts we have in our lives already. While we may want to find that special someone, the road to finding him can be long and treacherous. Along the way, many of us have our ups and downs, we need shoulders to cry on and sounding boards to listen to us and reason with us. We usually do this with our girlfriends!
As I have pointed out in the beginning of this blog, you need to start with you. True happiness comes from within and no other person on earth can make you happy if you have not searched your heart and decided that is who you are. Sure, there are situations that make you happy or unhappy, but true happiness is a state of being and not determined by a specific situation.
Think of all the riches you have in your life already! You probably have a full life, as many do today! You have your family, your girlfriends, maybe a pet, and many other things that make your life rich and fulfilled. Sometimes when we are too focused on that one thing we are lacking, we forget about all the other things that bring us joy.
If you truly do want to find your Mr. Maybe, or maybe want to get married, keep searching! But do NOT give up living a full life in the meantime! Go out with your friends, have fun, make dinner dates with your friends, meet your mom or sister for coffee – make the effort! Your chances of finding the right man for you are much better if you are living the life you want to live without him! When you meet him, he will easily fit into your life because your life will be what you want it already (with him being the only missing piece)!
A man will always find you more attractive if you are having fun and enjoying your life. He will want to get to know you! On the other hand, if you mope around and play “poor me”, then you will only attract someone like that, and you do not want that! Remember, you want a man who fits your non-negotiables. If you are living your life as you want your life, you are more likely to meet someone who falls in line with what you are looking for! Keep an open mind when you are out enjoying your life. Keep your eyes open, but never look desperate – men will run from that. Be your authentic self and you will attract a man who is drawn to the real you! Live your life and be happy!
- You matter! You deserve to be happy! (ministryofhappiness.wordpress.com)