When searching for your Mr. Maybe, I cannot stress enough how important it is for you to always be your authentic self. Never, ever pretend to be something you are not. Be true to YOU. This is why I always suggest to take time for yourself before your search to get to know your authentic self. Some of us may need to dig deep to find ourselves, and some will be living their authentic selves already. This will really depend on a lot of variable circumstances in our individual lives.
The important thing to remember is that you will find the right one for you only if you are your authentic self. If you feel an emptiness, void or incompleteness, then you are not living your authentic self. More than likely you are filling this void with living to the expectations of your friends and family instead of being who you really want to be. This can be draining, and it will never give you the inner peace and happiness everyone craves. Instead try focusing on what your true gifts and talents are, and live your life expressing these things and focusing on working them into your life instead of living your life as others expect.
When you discover your authentic self, you will draw to you someone who is attracted to the core essence of who you are, and not who you think you are supposed to be. You will attract the right men and the right friendships into your life, and they will lead to a very fulfilling life. Now, all of this may not be instantaneous! You may need to work on yourself and spend time with yourself. If you have been bogged down by family obligations or children or your job, you may need time to disconnect your fictitious self from your authentic self.
As we live our lives, most of us fall into some form of our fictitious selves due to obligations we feel are placed onto us by our circumstances and loved ones. Many will live out these expectations without giving thought as to what it is that we want or need – because those we love need us, and we want to be there for them! This is okay, of course, because we all want to make sure our loved ones are happy and taken care of, and we want to provide them with the love and attention they need. However, if we step back a little and think about who our core self is, we will discover that there may be many ways to provide this to them without losing who we are in the process. Sometimes stepping back allows us to move forward in a way that is far better for us than living to those perceived expectations places on us by others.
Dating is much the same. We all want to attract the right person into our lives and we all want to be happy. But how can we be truly happy unless we are living our authentic selves? We can’t! This is why it is so important to really take the time with yourself and discover who you really are. Mr. Maybe will fall in love with your authentic self and not the fictitious one! Your chances of finding the right one are much better if you live your core you instead of the one others expect you to be! Take time between dates to reflect. Take time between relationships and think about if you were true to your authentic self or living someone else’s expectations of you. You may discover that things did not work out because you were not authentic, which will always create unhappiness and incompleteness. Be authentic. Be YOU! The right people will come into your life! You will be well on your way to your Mr. Maybe!
- Live an Authentic Life: 10 Factors You Should Stop Caring About Today to be True to Yourself (positiveprovocations.com)
- Authenticity – That One Powerful Word (learngrowimaginecreate.wordpress.com)